Postpartum recovery is completely absolutely possible.
Postpartum recovery and time. Time does (usually) heal all wounds, including postpartum depression. (It is a cliche for a reason.) So, even if you were to not do anything, usually mothers and fathers organically move out of the postpartum depression within 3 years. The tricky piece is three years is a long time. And just when a person is feeling “back to herself (or himself) again,” the couple decides to have another child. That can trigger another postpartum depression. Though, it should not stop a person from having another child. Having children is beautiful.
My work is to ensure you can have as many children as you want and feel completely yourself during and after the postpartum period. We return to the mind, body and spirit healing solution. Mind involves therapy, and there are many kinds, or reading or writing. Body involves medicine, or nutritional healing, or exercise or all three. And spirit many times seems indulgent but is absolutely necessary,… being creative (playing music, painting, writing), praying, investing in relationships, building community, etc.
By focusing on the mind, and correcting cognitive distortions, we can help heal postpartum depression.
We will concentrate on a term called, Control Fallacies.
What does the term control fallacies mean? A control fallacy is the idea that we feel completely controlled by an external factor. Or, the opposite: when we completely blame ourselves for things outside of our control. Basically, if we feel completely controlled by external events and people, we will be depressed. Another prescription for depression is if we believe that we can control everything.
Furthermore, how does this translate with postpartum depression? In baby world, this translates as, “Why are you crying, baby?” Is it because of something I did or did not do?” And this is tricky because it actually may be something you did or did not do, but it also might be that your baby is tired or naturally just needs a good cry. The opposite is the idea that my baby will always cry because I am not my perfect sister or because we live in an apartment and not a house or because we do not have that baby swing everyone else has.
Here we present our shades of gray, the middle ground approach. What can we control and what is out of our control? Every perspective has a a kernel of truth but is not the truth entirely and this is important.
“Some people care too much. I think it’s called love.”
― A.A. Milne,