Depression finds its way into too many
conversations these days.
One has a sense that
a catastrophe has occurred
in the psychic landscape.
One of the best books on what is depression, is titled How to Heal Depression by Bloomfield and McWilliams. Click here for a PDF version of the book. This book conveys just how common depression is and also what it actually is. It is almost presented like a power point presentation. Many self-help books could easily be articles, this one is not that. Every single word in this book is essential for the understanding of the disease.
One of my favorite excerpts of the book is titled It is Not Your Fault.
Many times, during a bout of depression, we will blame ourselves for the depression. Please do not blame yourself
Below is an excerpt from McWilliams and Bloomfield’s book. Both writers are psychiatrists who suffered severe bouts of depression.
It’s Not Your Fault
You didn’t do anything to become depressed.
Your failure to do something didn’t cause your depression.
Depression is an illness.
You are no more at fault for having depression than if you had asthma, diabetes, heart disease, or any other illness.
In becoming depressed, you have nothing to blame yourself for and nothing to feel guilty about. (Although two of the symptoms of depression are that you probably will blame yourself and you probably will feel guilty.)
A predisposition toward depression can be hereditary. In addition, life is full of bumps and potholes–many of which simply cannot be avoided. It’s not surprising, then, if one of them (or a collection of them) triggers a depressive illness.
So, for heaven’s sake, don’t blame yourself. Don’t even blame yourself for blaming yourself.
It’s not your fault.
Guilt is the
mafia of the mind.
I think it bears repeating: Depression is an illness. It is not your fault.