Postpartum care, the first forty days, can feel very daunting.
Basically, it is the baby’s fourth trimester.
Our bodies are too small to carry the baby to term so to speak, so in the most authentic sense all babies are born premature. Ideally we would have them in our womb for another trimester, but our heads get too big!
Amazon summarizes this beautiful book best: “The first 40 days after the birth of a child offer an essential and fleeting period of rest and recovery for the new mother. Based on author Heng Ou’s own postpartum experience with zuo yuezi, a set period of “confinement,” in which a woman remains at home focusing on healing and bonding with her baby, The First Forty Days revives the lost art of caring for the mother after birth.”
The First Forty Days includes simple recipes, because food is healing, and really engages the mother in self care.
We have this inordinate pressure to bounce back immediately, but actually the first forty days of postpartum care can be a time of renewal, connection to the baby and care for the body and self, if we have the luxury of being able to do this. Many mothers do, and many mothers simply do not have the economical resources or the strength too, if they are looping through a postpartum depression. Many mothers lead single mother life immediately as they live far away from family and their husbands work a lot, or they are single mothers by choice, or not by choice, but ideally this would be amazing if every mother could incorporate even a part of this approach! This is a beautiful book. Feel free to read the author’s, Heng Ou’s, interview right here.
One advantage of talking to yourself is that you know at least somebody’s listening. Franklin P. Jones